Thnaks for the goal orientated post Rotty, most appreciated. As for the child support thing, she was the one who said she didn;t want any, I was willing but she did not want, that simple. I have said to her on numerous occasions that i would help for anything at all that may involve our d, be it child care, clothes, food or anything that involves her.
The goals you posted are great to see, I will take notice and create some of my own, most be probably look similar to yours. I know though that I am far far away from ML and all that jazz with my W, I know for a fact, hugs are even hard to come by, she is not very affectionate that way once she has made up her mind she wants nothing to do with me, which is the case now.
I have been playing with the mystery part of things, for instance yesterday I got home form playing some golf and had 2 messages from her asking where I was, not for anything utturly important, just what time she could drop our daughter off, but she called twice and I was not around. Small at first then I will move onto bigger nad better things.
Goals I have kinda been toying with are the following:
1) W will invite for supper 2) W will initiate conversation with me, either on the phone or in person 3) W will just drop by for a visit, which has yet to do since seperating.
So those are my short term goals, for now, see if I can make them happen in the following 2 weeks. If not, try to focus on more friendly goals.
I have yet to read DB, but have read 5 LL and DR recently. I may pick up DB on the weekend should the opportunity arise.
So no real new news for now as I have let the ball fall in her court, see if she will initiate anything at all, if not, we'll take it from there. I will keep posting any uppdates should they arise, or any change in attitude by me, as I am always thinking, could be a bad makes me want to try too hard some days, but I am working on controlling that emotion with the stop sign technique.
Keep up the good advice everyone, it is worth more than anything in my life right now.
