Well, Wood, I personally think you should pay child support to her. Just something - split the cost of food for your DD. Just so you know, I don't have kids of my own, my H has three from a prior M, and yes, I still believe she should get some of our money each week. If you are giving her nothing, she has something to complain about. And if she ever gets smart and gets a lawyer, you will not be seen in the best light.
That being said, the rest sounds great. Go ahead, get out and do something. Have fun this weekend.
Your goals may need some work, however. Have you read DB? I don't remember reading that you did. Maybe my mind is slipping...
Goals have to be action oriented and not long term. Try these for goals... they were some of mine in the beginning of DBing.
1. H will look at me 2. H will smile at a joke I tell 3. H will give me a hug again
See how they are actions and easily achievable in a short period of time. (My DB coach told me that it should be 2 weeks max) Then, when those were met, I changed them.
1. H will ML with me again 2. H will want to spend more time with me 3. H will stop talking about D.
OK, those are met My new ones, which so far have been unsuccessful are 1. H will hold my hand again 2. H will kiss me again 3. H will say ILY again.
So, my goals haven't been met and it's been over a month. What does that tell me? I bit off more than I can chew. I will now go back and make new goals, more easily obtainable ones.
Try those on and see if you can come up with more goals. Basically, goals should be baby steps you want to see. When you achieve them, you know you are on the right track. Then you look for more baby steps and make them your goals. It also helps in your solutions journal to have it written down so you know what worked and you can repeat that behavior.
