Things are going fairly decent. Some ups and downs.
Learned several things about OM. W thinks he is manipulative and an [censored] and while she felt lonely she realizes he used her. The texts I found between them she claims it wasn't even true (about the sex being good) that he had low self esteem. She can make it up or not but I do think she is sincere. Turns out that friend that knew about him also called him a bad influence. Obviously she wasn't going to tell me. They have no contact and W doesn't reference him with anything positive. She feels embarrassed and guilty. Counselor told her OM could have been anyone.
So counseling is still going (individual not couples) and W has a lot to work on. She told me she values my patience and dedication but that she cannot love someone else when she barely knows how to love herself.
She has had some blows at work and for other opportunities so that is making her feel more depressed. Counselor suggested medication would help but W is vehemently opposed to medication.
We are trying to both be more conscientious towards each other and recognize we are very different people. But there seems to be commitment.
W wants to do something special on the anniversary of when we first made it official that we had a relationship. So I thought that was a great sign.
On a personal note I have started running again (last time was 1/28) and signed up for a couple of 10ks and working towards a half marathon.
