Yeah, in my experience any counseling or support based in a church (including Divorce Care) can be very preachy, unfortunately.
Till last week I would have been baffled by this^^^ remark. My divorcecare group has healthy discussions and then we get together afterwards.
Then Last week the leader showed a video, and it was over the top (for me) with preaching. Lots of scriptural quotes I could not connect to the topic. We had anger and depression as the topic of the night. The book was fine.
(But I already get that marriage is a "vow and a commitment", so I don't need the epic fail pointed out anymore. And don't find my anger helped much by pondering Christ on the cross, but I digress. And I'm sorry if this offends. I just wasn't helped at all).
The WAS is very self-centered, so I don't think a God-heavy approach ("What you're supposed to do") is appropriate. Total agreement and It will backfire. IF there's help to be found in religion, (for them, I mean), it'll be a with a private approach that does not have the LBS right there.
I recommend you find someone else for MC. Ask your W if she would like to pick someone. She needs to be 100% comfortable with the person.
Has she mentioned going to MC again?
please avoid that pastor with the boundary issue. We had some good chaplains.
And one of the guys h and I saw, was very complimentary to me in front of h. H did not seem to mind. I assumed it was a guy thing (like if other men compliment your wife, then you will feel you are "winning" with a trophy wife, or something, or whatever...)
but when I saw the MC pastor alone, he made a pass at me. I never went back.
gross. SMH at the recall.
Not saying you need to tell your w this, but it does happen.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
