Thanks Rotty, good advice. I will answer some of your questions. First Am I paying support, nothing in terms of monthly payments, but I do pay full medical, dental and life insurance for her. As for 180's I'm gona have to think of those a little harder, to try and pin point where I have done 180's since this sitch happened.
As for creating some mystery, I;m full steam ahead on that one, I'm going to respect her call for space, and I am now letting my machine pick up all my phone calls, just so she doesn't think I'm waiting by the phone.
I've made plans already for this weekend with friends, and do try to make plans regularly to get out of the house so to speak. Again her not knowing my whereabouts. But the last few weeks she seemed interested in knowing where I was and who I was with, lately not so interested. Don't know how to read that one.
Her mother is coming down to visit fromout of town this weekend, first time she has seen her since the marriage fell apart. Don't know what to expect from the visit, all I know is that I won't se my daughtert his weekend because of it, as she will spend the weekend with grammy. Gives me a weekend to do something for myself though.
SOme comments WAW made recently have me thinking I'm fighting a losing battle though. For instance she keeps talking about the winter and her still living there, with that I feel that she is talking about staying away for a long time, probably normal thinking under the circumstances, but still has me wondering if I'm not doing all this for nothing.
But new stones are being unturned, I have reverted to starting fresh, letting the WAW make contact, not pursuing or asking any questions. Going to let her initiate all conversations even during drop off and pick up of our daughter. Although I did get a thank you the other day when she came over, told her she looked nice, and she replied, that hasn't happened in a while, but then she spends the evening with OM. So its almost as if I can't win.
Speaking of asif, I am going to begin acting as if, not get too emotional about any baby steps I may see and so on. Hope I am on the right track with this, as the last thing I want to do is push her further away, as it seemed I have been in reent weeks after she came back to me from the abyss.
Keep up the good work friends and your input is always valuable and really does help me put things into perspective...
