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[gw5263]

So i stop doing things for her, detach, and press on. She needs to see and experience what life will be without me in it. I missed my chance at this when the whole thing first started. Back in july when we separated was my golden opportunity. But at that point i was still begging pleading crying guy, when i should have detached and let her experience life on her own. Instead i "ride to the rescue" when she cannot afford anything at all around the house, i come back and begin paying all the bills she couldnt. My main motivator at that time was my kids. i realise now that i could have stayed away and still made sure the kids had what they needed with out supplying her. she would have gotten a good dose of reality about a week later when she was flat broke, but i "saved the day" and in reality made it even harder to get her to see what it wuld be like. Now i at least have an understanding how to proceed from here. I have made so many mistakes it isnt even funny... Now to try and correct them. I have told her i dont accept the Affair, now i have to show it thru my actions. Thanks LH and Joseph. This is the most difficult thing i have ever experienced, over everything else. I think im doing it right, and its wrong. I cant seem to get a balance,