So how do i handle this aspect^^^^^^^? do i apply some pressure(how/ what type)or not say anything about the A? Just a little confuse
You don't apply pressure directly, such as always making comments or asking questions about the R and A. Any pressure she feels should come from the situation she has caused herself by getting involved with this OM. Make sense?
As long as you play happy family, and she gets her time with OM, she really isn't feeling pressure to change anything. That was my answer as to why things almost feel "normal". She thinks she has you right where she wants you. The more you do things that have no emotional attachment to her, the faster you will detach. This comes about through GAL like crazy, and doing 180's for yourself. Stop doing things with her as a couple or as a family, (except maybe when she shows up at the dinner table).
Stay balanced in your thinking about 180's. Don't make them so much about assisting her.
Does she know that you are aware that she's talking to OM during her walk?
Is she calling this arrangement a separation, or did she just move into the other bedroom?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
