still struggling

[Jim1234]

then why not do what your w suggests?

That's a good question. There's no simple answer.

My thoughts, in no particular order....

I'm pissed about the divorce and feeling a little vindictive.

I'll call the mortgage company and see if I can just drop her from the mortgage on our marital home like she suggests.

If I do not push her to refi, she will let it drag out as long as I let her.

I guess I feel like if we are getting divorced, I should stop protecting her from herself and let her fend for herself.

If she follows thru on the divorce, the best way I can protect myself is to get my name off her mortgage.

In the past, she has failed to follow through on our agreements, with no real repercussions, and this time, forcing her to live with the consequences of her failure to follow through will be a huge 180.