Yes I have read the 5 Love Languages, only thing I have to figure out which one she is.
She seems happy when I give her flowers and gifts, but on the other hand if I give compliments they get shrugged off. Example, She asked if she needed to look presentable for dinner, I asked her what she meant and she replied she hadn't got dressedup, was still in her comfy clothes, I said it didn't matter she was beautiful either way, I got no repsonse. I'm thinking her LL may be QT, but I thought I was giving that to her on a daily basis. I wasn't one who went out with the boys on the weekends, or at night, I was more than content being at home with her, her presence made me feel confident. Maybe it was like you say, we didn't do anything just us two very often other than hang out on the couch. That may have been the beginning of the end. The reasons I mentioned for her leaving are things I picked up on from previous conversations and she has yet to state why she left just that she couldn't live with me anymore.
Friends of mine tell me that she will find someone else and for me to finalize it and move on with my life. Personally I feel as though I have, just without her. Mind you nights are long and lonely some times, but I can usually find something to do to keep my mind occupied till bed.
I mentioned to my friend that I had laid it out to her that I would like to work things out, she thinks I'm crazy, saying stuff like she's had plenty of time to think things over, get her to sign the Agreement and move on. As she has yet to sign a seperation agreement I got drawn up first week of March.
My friend also suggests she is very depressed and really needs help, what does anyone think of that conclusion? i have thought about and I can definitely see some signs of depression, but not full blown.
My WAW was saying that the only thing she can focus on is being the best mom for our D right now, when I ask my D what they've done this week, she replies nothing. How's that being the best mom out there?
She continues on with OM, not that they each other all that often anymore, but I know her feelings for him are still strong. And they do keep in touch and do things occasionally together. I keep going through a question in my mind, why would she give him another chance and not me? I know that sounds crazy but I keep thinking about it.
My friend also made a comment this evening, that she is just playing me waiting or something better to come along, that hurt lots. I really hope that is not the case.
I guess one of my goals would be similar to your Betsey, try to erase the anger I have inside. I have started a journal to let it out and hopefully with this bb and my journal I can keep my negative comments to a minimum with her.
That part I know she does not like. I guess its going to be full steam ahead with trying to the man she can't live without. But again, I am lost as to what I need to do to acheive this goal.
I am going to try and figure out her LL to see if using that to its advantage can help, but first steps first I need to figure out what her LL is before I can act on it.
I always told her I loved her, always complimented her on the way she looked and smelled. Like I said I need to think this one over very hard, but for the time being space is what she wants, space is what she'll get. Like you said Betsey, if she said she wants it, I need to respect that request. Please reply with more knowledge, you really got my wheels turning, and its better here it seems than with trying to figure her out. I will try to make her my number one priority, but how do i do this while giving her space, kinda a catch 22 don't you think???
