Thanks for the uplifting words Betsey, lots to think about there. You asked for some of my goals. I have a few goals in mind that I have been working on. Here they are.
First and foremost, being the best father to my daughter, whatever that entails. Secondly, I've decided to get myself in shape by working out hard and long during these lonely days. I have also changed my diet completely around and I am feeling better physically because of it. I've become active in youth sports as well, something I've been wanting to do for a while now but never had the time, I am going to coach little league this summer.
As for some more long term goals, I have planned to refinish my basement in our home, I have partially done it, now I;m going to finish it. Ultimately work on my marriage is probably the biggest goal I have right now and the furthest away from acheiving as well. I also plan on changing my routines around a bit, making eacjh day different instead on the same old same old.
Are these the goals you had in mind? Are my goals not goals but simply chores? I have a hard time differenciating them.
Anyway, I will definitley leave the R talk alone, when she's ready she willcome, I hope anyway.
The reasons she said she couldn't be with me were the following: She said I starting doing my own thing back last summer, which I still can't figure out. 2) She said she felt trapped in our home, eben though I was not one to say you can't do this and you can't do that, i've always given her space and let her do as she pleased. Maybe that was part of it, no boundaries. Alo she said that she thought I expected sex every night before we fell asleep, of course it would've been nice, but I was not demanding of it. She also mentioned she had the passion for me, that she still loved me as a person but was not in love with me anymore, I'm sure many of us have heard that one. She said she couldn't be the wife that I expected of her, that I did everything for her and she could do nothing for me, just didn't have it in her.
I will try to think of some more things she said to me while things were falling apart, hard to back on those memories though, those were very hard times for me.
Does any of what I mentioned turn on any lights for anyone? Are there things I can do to undo the wrongs i've done?
But Betsey I will definitely lay low and let things materialize on their own, enough pushing and talking, as you said she knows where I stand and leave it alone. Your are quite wise, thanks.
So please Betsey let me know if these are the type of goals I should have or should they be of a different type. You seem to have great knowledge and I would for you to share some of it with me...
