A fresh start? (probably not!)

[CW2017]

Hi Jim
there was essentially a 6 month gap between confrontation 1 and 2, this time period involving almost unbearable pain (esp as I was message monitoring) but I could not involve her family primarily because of her mother living with us who is in quite poor health. The second time around I used the ruse of her talking in her sleep (not true!) which allowed the floodgates to fall so she never had an inkling of my knowing especially she thought she had previously headed me off at the pass back in January. At the moment, because she agreed so rapidly to MC and because on the surface we seemed to have made so much progress in getting everything out in the open during 10 individual and joint sessions, again we appear to be "back to normal" and closer than ever but little things, such as an encrypted area on her phone, would suggest otherwise (and of course the messaging of OM a week ago on her big night out).

In hindsight yes of course I wish I had confronted a second time a lot quicker but the limbo seemed to be a quicker period of time than it actually was. Also because there has never been any nastiness as such (due to her being on her best behaviour and/or guilt?) I guess (in classic Nice Guy mode) I wished to preserve the status quo not least because of DD. It will all play out as an endgame in the end but at the very least we are incredibly close now (within the double life format!)