We'll I have been letting the cards fall and seeing if she would initiate anything this week. And guess what, nothing at all. I guess patience in on the plate for this week. Although she keeps trying to give me guilt trips about things. Example, she now has new place and keeps saying that she won't be able to afford it in the winter because of the heating bill, and casually said I wasn't helping her out. What gives, does she expect me to fork it out while she decides to live another life, I had to put my foot down on that one and calmly said, "You made your bed time to sleep in it. I knwo it sounds harsh but she needs to wake up and smell the roses on the other side of the fence I think.
She keeps telling me that we said we would do whats best for our daughter, I beleive whats best is to have her parents together working it out, but she sees it another way obviously. I haven't said that to her directly but maybe I should.
Earlier this week I laid it out plain and clear to her, I said to her my ultimate goal was for us to work on the marriage, be it now or down the road, i have yet to get response to that, I'm thinking she probably thinks I'm sounding redundant and all, but I needed to tell her what my goal was. It helped me alot emotionally to tell her that.
I am stillg oing to steer clear and see if she initaites anything, but this week nothing as I mentioned, maybe she likes it like this, I don;t know. As I said in previous posts, she doesn;t seem willign to open up yet emotionally to me. I can understand and don't condone her for it at all.
As for me, life is great, daughter calls me everyday from WAW house to get a good night from me, don't talk to her much as she has not much to say these days. She mentioned she was stressed a bit the other day as she smashed her truck and needs to get it fixed, now she wants to sell it as she says she can't afford it, again with the money problems, I guess she starting to see its not great on her own. Oh well, as I said she made her bed.
WHat do you guys think do I keep playing superdad, and ignore her pleas for financial help, and keep it at being dad and not trying to talk R with her. I know this is key to DBing, not talking R. I've tried a few times in the past 2 weeks to no avail, so I guess maybe its time to forget that and keep on truckin.
