Well I have been doing the same things, but now I am getting the same lines I got when she decided to leave.
Example: "Maybe after things have settled and I've had some time to myself we can discuss future plans, but right now I need time alone. Doesn't mean that we can't do things together and be friends, but that's all I can commit to at the moment. I wish things were different but it wouldn't be fair of me to tell you what you want to hear just to spare your feelings and then have everything fall apart again. I have alot of things I need to sort out in my head."
This is the kind of stuff I'm talking about, the same lingo I heard a few months back. I have responded with apathy, stating that its fine that you need time to yourself and all that. Only thing is I know she playing me with how she feels towards the OM. Should I be concerned with that, or just ne happy that she thinks she is happy? I don't want to encourage her to be with him, but what do I say??? She is moving out of the OM place today and has cleared out the rest of her stuff from our home, now she is really gone. I am OK with that, knowing she will thinking about us and if its something she reallyw ants, but as I said I'm not sure if she means it or is just playing me so I can help her out from time to time and all that. ANy guidance would be appreciated here. I am not down on myself or anything like that, I just have a feeling she is yanking my chain for the sake she knows she can.
Should I continue to do things together with her? SHould I initiate or let her make the plans and follow suit? That is probably my biggest question? All I know right now is how I'm feeling, and since she has returned to my life, I can't stop thinking about her. I dream of her nightly and cannot stop to think of the nice things I want to do for her, but don't know if that will push her further towards OM, or that she will fall in love with me again. If anyone can answer that one for me, please do, I seem to be caught up in my emotions as of late and I am in dire need of some direction.
