Hi Nicole thank you for your kind comments and I hope and pray your H sees sense. As I have discovered no matter which way I end up playing this sitch it is a long process. Either my W lets her "thing" fizzle out over time or a mistake is made on her part at some point which will leave her open to a maelstrom of bad feeling on all fronts. As we are supposed to be more open now I would have to ensure through dialogue that there will never be OM2, OM3... As it stands it appears on the surface at least that we are back to normal but all is not what it seems. As Parkema said when he was commenting on my sitch in his own thread if I am indeed in a cake eating situation this could in principle carry on indefinitely if I don't act on it at some point.
Me 55, W 50 D 8 M 20 T 27 MIL w/ us BD 01/02/17 workplace A (12/09/16, EA -> PA) OM senior manager, long term W, child 14 now: limbo (my choice)
"Don't care what you may do, we got that attitude!" - Bad Brains