So I made an appt with a lawyer. I see her in a week. That was the soonest I could get in. I had a conversation with H. I told him I suspected it was his pride that was making him stay away. He said I told him my friends told him to be let him rot and he will eventually come crawling back. Which is a complete lie. I would never say that neither would any of my friends. Anyways he is always talking about my pride. So I looked at it differently and thought what if he was projecting onto me what he thought of him self. So I mentioned it. I said he believes his pride would be wounded if he came back. That people would think of him as weak. (He likes to be seen as having his sh.t together) and that that would not be the case. Only the people that didn't care about him might think like that. That there is no winning or losing in a relationship. There are no scoreboards. I said but I can't make him see things he doesn't want to see. And then he said he was working and very very busy and had to go. So I know by his actions I have hit the nail on the head. Now how do I work around that? He keeps asking me to provide a budget and what I want out of the divorce. Is this the point where I give up? It seems pointless now. Looking for advice how to deal with someone who's pride is everything. Thanks.
