24 Mths in..I gotta whole lot of living to do now

[Irish M]

Sounds like it is time for some topless Jeep therapy time.

Great advice SBJ :-)
sadly its a weekend of rain. I put the hard top on 2 weeks ago or so. But I have the freedom top where the front seat panels come off. So with warmer temps next week.. your prescription will be filled.

This is no way to undo the damage, as well you know - as any sane person knows.

Yes, it's not what I would envision as a pleasant first time meet up. D17 is already a little nervous. This threat isn't helping.

Eew has no custody rights, correct? Has the school seen a copy of the divorce / custody papers? They should all be aware of this and make sure they don't create another clusterF

xx buttrfly, Yes the school knows everything. They have told her on numerous occasions to stay away from the school. Her erratic behavior. the principle and teachers picked up on it right away. But legally she has the right to attend since she is not deemed violent or any danger towards D15 and D17.

Best wishes for the your daughters big ceremony and night

thanks Roist

either XW will step up to the plate and realize the truth and what she has created or she will continue on this way many years and perhaps get worse into addiction
nothing you can do except what you are doing and moving forward with your life letting her deal with her choices

Hi Peace xx, yes I truly hope that she will step up to the plate one day. If this will happen one day, I will be a happy man.

If she ends up deeper in a dark place. I think god the girls don't have to witness it and I wish her the best.

It must be tough for your girls to have the shadow of this happening when nice events are due to take place. I'm sure the event will still be lovely and it is nice that your GF will be there in support too. Your girls are lucky to have one stable parent (which makes a huge difference) and a supportive girlfriend in the mix too.

Yes it was a tough day yesterday and Friday night.
thanks for your support Sotto xx


So yesterday morning D17 comes to me and says she doesn't want to go. I tell her that she can't let her mother control her this way that she must live and do things for her and not worry about her mother.

In my gut the threat of my XW coming was a dead threat. Wouldn't happen. My XW avoids and is good at it. She will spew but no action. Typical here with these MLC. So the morning goes on and I can tell D17 is nervous. D15 not as much. She is venting anger towards her mom. Saying if she shows up with OM I will punch them both in the face. Now I know anger is love. If there was no love then the anger emotion would not show its face. I hugged D15 and told her that even if her mom was to show up she is to just be calm and enjoy the day for D17. no drama.

D17 gets ready. Its the ceremony. They wear gowns. Nothing is showing but the shoes. No need to wear a fancy dress because it is covered. There is no prom as it was in June. So D17 wears her comfortable jeans and t shirt. Does her hair and makeup and we go.

Outside the school the kids are going in first to get ready and the parents line up to go in 40 mins after. all the kids were dressed as if it was a photo shoot and red carpet deal. I tell D17 if she wants to go home and change she can,We still have time. She says no dad. I am good how I am. I'm going in. So she walks in with her head high amounts the fashion divas and GQ guys. I was so proud of her for doing that. She is strong

the ceremony went great. No signs of Xw and to be honest I was sitting in the 2nd row and never once looked back to scout the place. If she was there she was there. I wouldn't of known it.
Seeing my D17 get her diploma I did shed a tear. We exchanged smiles and were both at peace enjoying the moment.

and you know what. No one knew she was under-dressed for the occasion. She was comfortable and herself. They all looked the same.

And avout XW. My mom always told me. Never worry about something before it happens. It is a waist of energy because we always worry the worst and it never happens the way we think it will.

hope you all have a great day.. sunshine for the next 7 days. Warmer temps and open jeep top in the forecast :-)