How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

My thought on taking them down was to make her question whether I'm always going to be waiting here for her. Before I started DB'ing, I was always reminding my W that she would always be welcomed home... I now wonder if that made it easier for her to leave knowing she had a safety net and that I would always be waiting for her.

As I mentioned in prior post, its been 6 months of pure hell, and just as I'm ready to start making it look to her as though I am detaching (I'm still battling the notion of truly detaching... makes perfect sense, just easier said then done) things start to change. No I do not want to interrupt these changes... as long as they are true progress and not prolonging the "space" she needs.

As a matter of fact I'm gonna ask this again as I only got one response last time and would like to get some other opinions.

We've been doing weekly family dinners, sometimes the W and I will have a cup of tea together during drop offs, we have spoke about doing halloween and x-mas a.m. as a family (I suggested h-ween, xmas to which she said yes to), today she said we should go to the pumpkin patch together (yearly tradition).

Am I making easier for her, if we did not do these things maybe she would miss them and be more inclined to work on the M... or should I take these opportunities to show her my 180's, and also view these times as progress as she could not stand to be around me the prior couple months.