The reason why my advice is so tough and ridged with the newcomers is because I want them to avoid my mistakes. I initially tried to nice my way back into her heart. As a result, she took full advantage and her behavior got worse. You were right that as long as the WW doesn't respect you, then you won't get anywhere with them.
Now your 100 percent correct about me being torn in regards on how to react with my W. Even though I was pissed at her last month, I decided to calm down once her behavior got better. So everything is at least on a cordial level. But I am a bot concerned about how she will interpret things. S13 birthday is tomorrow, I emailed the D information on Monday. When I sent it to her, I never even considered S13 birthday. Our wedding Anniversary is actually on the 18th now that I think about it. Guess the timing did suck, but I have so much on plate and decisions to make that W feelings didn't seem that important. I just know that lawyer needed me to get that signed off on.
I'm not expecting a desired response from W. But when I received the paperwork from my lawyer, it made me sad seeing myself as the Plantiff and W as the Defendant. Like things had really come to this. I would hope that my W would experience some sadness at the possibility of the MR coming to an end. AS far as my goals, they are solely about me and not involving my W. If things change in our sitch, then I will adjust the goals accordingly. But right now, life is going to be about me and S13.
Seriously had trust issues prior to all of this. And right now it seems as if I will never completely trust anyone again. I now this may sound cliche, but my W was never one who I thought would do this. She turned in friends of ours who were having A. Didn't entertain people who were doing this stuff. And talked about her own mother and family members were out sleeping around with other people's H's. So if she can do this of all people, then I am not sure if there is woman trustworthy out there other than my mother of course.
As for the paperwork, I suppose I will just sit back and say nothing about it. W knows where I stand at the moment. If she wants to talk, then she knows I'm open to talk. I was just wondering what she could be thinking based on trying to figure out what to do. Do I just sit back and say nothing for days, week or months if she says nothing about it? And is this her way of testing me by just ignoring the paperwork all together? I ask this, because I wonder if this is about respect.
By the way, W just called asking about what plans I have for S13 tomorrow. He is with me for the next week, so she mentioned something about a Fall event at the market he likes to attend every year. W asked me if I wanted to go with them in the morning. Never bothered to ask if it was alright to get him during my week. But I didn't say anything, its his birthday, so I have no issue with her getting him for a couple of hours. Told her will figure out the plans for the whole day in the morning. So it appears that the three of us might be spending the day together after all.
