Living in limbo and hating it

[Painful]

I don't mean to hijack Painfuls's thread, but this little line caught my attention as well. I am 1 year and 4 months into my separation. W has been in a full-blown PA the entire time. They don't live together. There has been no separation agreement, no request for support and no D talked about or filed.

Wow, Matrix, looks like our sitches are identical except you're 7 months ahead of me. Maybe you can share your thoughts on my original q about no longer paying for WW's car insurance. How do you guys handle financial arrangements? Are they completely separate or are you paying for anything for your WW (or maybe vice versa)?

I definitely wish I'd cancelled it at the outset when everything was "hot" as she was moving out; wouldn't have this dilemma right now. Our current communication is very minimal but civil and neutral. This MIGHT bring it back somewhat to the negative side but then again I remind myself that the WW is carrying on with her A so who gives a s--t.

I am thankful for this, because I think it would be easier to recon if we are still married.

For sure. And that sums up my own theory on why they aren't doing anything: they may be done emotionally and physically with MR for now but deep down in their brains they have serious doubts about their As ending in happily ever after. And as much as being Plan B is being looked down upon by many, I believe that at least for now it's better than being no plan at all.