My question is why would the WW run around talking about they want to leave the MR. But yet they still want all the benefits that come with the MR.
It's their self entitlement and their self justification mixed together with their anger.
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So do they know that they really don't want a divorce when it comes down to it?
I think it depends upon the individual WW. The key words in this question are, "When it comes down to it". By the time they are in an affair or living like GGW, they are giving over to their fantasy & rebellion. Some WW's may think they want the D and will ride off into the sunset with the OM. However, if reality starts crashing their fantasy....it could cause them to pull back from D. That particular scenario is too varied, and depends upon the individual situation.
I think a lot depends upon what happens between the BD and D. A lot of hatred can come from both spouses during this period. There have been cases where the affair ended, but they still went through with the D.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
