That’s a good question, she basically ignored my request to leave my house and continued I would have had to get physical and that’s NEVER going to happen.
I need to learn to step back when she pushes and defuse the argument by not giving her any subject to follow on from, does that make sense? I basically need to recognise she wants a reaction and instead of falling for it just agree and dissipate the anger by letting her basically win! What I mean by winning is that NOT being a doormat but also not allowing her to grab hold of something I say and use it against me. In a way be there but NOT be there!!!
Just act neutral… To be honest I don't think this will happen as us coming F2F again is not very likely it was that bad! I wont go through that again.
M.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
