But do you you believe your statement above is true for all WWs or just specific for H?
I won't go as far as saying it is in every single situation, b\c I have no way of knowing for sure. I am basing my statement on the nature of most females and the characteristics of most WW cases I have observed. Certainly, there are exceptions.
For the WW, she believes everything is about her. Not only is she selfish, but she is very jealous about anything that takes away something from her. She may not want to act as her H's wife, but she doesn't want to lose any of the benefits that came with being his W. She still thinks she should go along on the family vacations, be invited to all the family events, etc, as though nothing has changed. She still wants control over him, and thinks she's entitled to know where he's going, who he saw, etc. There is a reason she is so curious about his activities and why she asks questions. She is jealous of another person getting the attention she feels should go to her. This doesn't have to be OW, it can be her own family, or her LBH, or anyone.......b\c her mindset is so sc@wed up and her emotions are so out of control.....it's like she is neurotic. Her feelings and thought process makes no sense to a sound, logical person.
She may claim that she wants her H to meet someone else, so she can be free to move on.......but what is holding her back now? It doesn't stop her cheating. She will demoralize her H in order to justify herself, anyway. It's one thing for her to make statements that she wishes he would meet someone else, but entirely different to actually seeing another woman fill the place that once belonged to her. Whether that place be in the heart of her H, in the marital home, or in the lives of her children. The green monster still abides within the WW.
I am not telling you to run out and find another woman to make your W jealous. Dating and rebound relationships only add more potholes in the road back. I do encourage GAL like there's no tomorrow, and don't reveal details to your WW's nosy questions. I recommend being mysterous... if all you can do is leave the house and go to the library and read, she doesn't have to know anything except you have been "out".
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
