Now I don’t intend to come into contact with AP/LO at all as I feel this is helping me stop the pictures of them together as I can’t put a face to that person, I mentioned that I will not come into contact with him and that there is no need for us to meet. I feel this is just another way for my WW to make her life much easier.
I get some of what you are saying. But Im having trouble really understanding how this plays out practically. Youve posted several times that you are positive that this R will end. Maybe, maybe not. I was positive my ex's relationship with the AP would end, and here they are, still married a couple years later.
I dont like him, Im not going to hang out with him, but I know that no matter what my opinion is, he is in my children's lives. If they have a soccer game or a dance recital or a parent teacher conference, he is going to be there. Me suggesting I will never meet him is just putting my head in the sand.
Let's say hes at their house when you drop the kids off....or he answers the door even? Then what? Are you going to turn and run away with them?
I understand the hurt place where you are coming from. And I certainly dont believe that you need to spend any time with him. But I feel like pretending he doesnt exist is doing yourself a disservice by giving him that power over you.
Originally Posted By: Parkema
Both boys in absolute bits as the argument went on and crying uncontrollably, I tried to keep my cool and did to a degree until she started getting louder and more aggressive showing no respect for any of us.
What was your role? How could you behave differently? I like AS's suggestion of walking away once things are elevated, especially in front of the kids. How does this encounter align with your goals of fatherhood? Whats most important to you? What hill are you willing to die on?
