24 Mths in..I gotta whole lot of living to do now

[Irish M]

Hi everyone.
Cali, Bttrfly, Gordie and Roist. I really truly appreciate your views and support. Read them all over and over again. It is why i was away for a while. I needed to digest some views and and process the events.

With that said.

Day to day live is great. keeping busy with life. Juggling the role of Dad, boyfriend, boss ( at work ) and also my time.

Girls are doing great. we dusted ourselves off from EX's dads funeral and her outbursts. We feel no guilt not attending and will pay visit to the burial site when ever we can.

latest XW adventure is .

She tracked down D17's instagram. Messaged her

Call me. tonight!!!

D17 was puzzled. didn't reply and simply blocked.

minutes later I receive a text

Tell MY girls to call me tonight. I need to hear their voices.

I reply: Just like that? What's the urgency

I just want to talk to them NOW. and if you don't force them I will be at D17 ceremony this weekend.

I will back up a little. D17 graduated high school this past summer. They had their prom and grad march. But the official ceremony is only in October since the final exams aren't finalized. So If you really graduate this is the event. In October because summer holidays and the start of college doesn't give a good window to have this.

I purchased 5 ticket. One for D15, 2 for my parents, one for me and one for my GF ( d17 wants her there)

I never received the tickets. I called the school last week and asked them where they were shipped via mail. Well XW address pops up. they apologize and prepare me 5 new tickets to pick up. I do.

I message XW. did you receive anything for D17 grad. She replies yes, but i sent them back. This was last week.

now back to yesterday

I'm sorry threats won't ever make me force the girls to call you. If you show up at the grad, it will only put a huge amount of stress on D17 and D15. I don;t think its a good place to try to connect with them especially after MIA 2 years.

she replies : Then I will see U at the grad. Good night.

Nothing much I can do. If she still has the tickets then she is free to go. She causes no real danger to the girls from what I can tell. It will sadly just create drama and more tension between her and the girls.

D17 says she will punch her in the face if she approaches her. D15 says she will do the same but to OM.

now I personally don;t think she will show. She avoids and is d@mn good at it. She probably had a moment of loss. Her text seemed like she was drunk.

I wish her well but I won't change my views of not forcing the girls. They don't need the madness. They need a mom.