What Peace wrote resonated with me too. Over time, what XH did, does and decided has come to matter far less. What really matters is who I am, what I did, do and decided.

I too have no regrets. Our marriage mattered to me and I stood up for it when it was in crisis. XH chose to file for D within a year or so and hasn't looked back. But I do not regret my part in trying to save our marriage. I sleep well at night. I don't know how he sleeps, but I wouldn't want to be in those shoes.

It is important to look back and feel - I'm proud of who I was during that difficult time. Whatever the ultimate outcome....

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus