That's the thing - I don't think it would be rewarding for me or most women. A man has to know the woman well enough to know what works for her, and what is uncomfortable. Some men don't want the feedback as it hurts their ego.
I doubt a guy who I'm not really dating, would know or care about what I want/need to enjoy the sex. Anyhow, food for thought.
Don't ASSume! I've had great sex with men who were just casual dates. One good things about dating at this age - grown men have often acquired some skills! I worried too about sex with someone new, as my ex and I knew each other so well in that department. As it turned out, I needn't have worried! The first guy I dated after my ex left was super sexy. And most of my dates since have been great as well. AS for the casual thing - some people just get too attached, and then hurt, and shouldn't do it. But there can be advantages. Before my last boyfriend, I briefly dated a guy who was a classic love avoidant. He was, however, very honest and upfront about it, telling me right from the beginning that he didn't "do" relationships. Because all the cards were on the table, we had a few very enjoyable overnight dates (he's smart, a good cook, interested in book and movies and music) and then I moved on to what I THOUGHT was a more relationship-minded man.
We've stayed friends though, and I can't tell you how nice it is to know right now that, should I get lonely, there's a smart and very sexy friend who would be happy to have me come visit for a weekend. It's very comforting.
Btw, I expressed this very thought to him recently and here's his very sweet reply. As you can see, casual sex can still be thoughtful and kind:
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Well thank you Precious. You always have a safe haven getaway (so to speak) an hour + north whenever you need. It is not lost on me the sincere & genuine concern you've have always shown me, especially in my hour of need, I love you dearly for that & I will always be here for you in whatever capacity I'm able & you require. Love you more than you'll ever know.
