Oh Mark! What a nightmare. I have no advice for the specific situation, but just wanted to say I think you handled it as well as anyone could have- that's a boundary for you, and you were man enough to stand by it. I know it's heartbreaking to think about the boys, but you will have them soon, ALONE, and I'm sure some wise person on here can give you advice on how to talk to them and give them the reassurance that you are handling this, and in control, were that situation to arise with OM.
ALL of this stinks!
Keep being strong. ((((( Mark ))))))
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton