My WW has just come back from a 5-night vacation with her AP/LO and picked the boys up from me. The first visit went well with me showing the usual Mark and everything went off without a hitch, once she had taken the boys back to the FH I received a text that S8 wanted his Trombone and could I take it round for him.
A simple enough request BUT I have a boundary about AP/LO being in my house and WILL NOT go round whilst he’s there and this was the case in this instance. WW came back to my house and I just went to give her the instrument when I was faced with her saying I must come face-to-face with AP/LO and due to my stance my S8 is getting upset that something bad will happen if we did!
Now I don’t intend to come into contact with AP/LO at all as I feel this is helping me stop the pictures of them together as I can’t put a face to that person, I mentioned that I will not come into contact with him and that there is no need for us to meet. I feel this is just another way for my WW to make her life much easier.
Why would she want us to meet?
Do you feel I’m right in my stance even though it is VERY upsetting to both my S’s?
We’ve all had other partners who we no longer see or have any communication with, and rarely do our paths cross!
This was an awful encounter. Both boys in absolute bits as the argument went on and crying uncontrollably, I tried to keep my cool and did to a degree until she started getting louder and more aggressive showing no respect for any of us. I told her to leave and allow me to talk to the boys to outline that there concern isn’t warranted as I don’t intend to come into contact so is a non-starter!
She wouldn’t leave it at that and insisted that there would come a time where we’ll meet but due to my stance and the unknown of what I’d do if we ever did meet the boys are afraid if this was to happen BUT I just don’t see this having to happen and tried to get this across to her BUT again as usual fell on deaf ears as I basically disagreed with her over this point and she continued to try and get her own way.
His whole episode is THE WORST I’ve experienced since we’ve been together and had a massive impact on our boys.
As I speak this I just want to be with my boys and comfort them knowing she is taking them back to a stranger and "brainwashing" them against me.
Horrible.
M.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
