WW in EA, NC w/OM(?), W's BFF interfering, part 7

[Painful]

Oh don't you believe it! She does not want another woman refilling her position in your life.

Sandi -

Don't mean to hijack your dialogue with H, nor did I read H's sitch. But do you you believe your statement above is true for all WWs or just specific for H?

The reason I ask b/c I think my WW is anxiously waiting for me to get together with someone so that she can finally legitimize her OM in everyone's eyes. Like "see, he's over me and dating, so my future is with OM and all of you need to forget about Painful b/c he doesn't want to be with me" (as if making me responsible for MR breakup). Currently all her family and most friends reject the OM and want her to get back to me. But of course, her resentful and rebellious wayward mindset - as you so eloquently described some time ago - wants to stay with OM to prove everyone wrong. Thus my q in bold.