Lost on how to save my marriage! 4

[joejoe1]

Sandi,

She has told me that the counseling session the other day, wasn't that good. She said the counselor different offer her no techniques to help her deal with her depression, and also to help her to stop crying at night.

I have already caught her cheating. I told her around a month ago, she could stay and stop talking to the OM or leave and cont. what she was doing. She decided to stay.

I don't know if she wants to work on the M yet. I haven't broached that conversation. I don't initiative convo about the M or R. She also brought up the counseling session. I really don't initiate any heavy convo, unless it's about finances. She has been the one lately doing all the initiating.

Yesterday was the first day we rode together in a vehicle in months. We took the boys to dental appointments. She also rode in the front seat. I thought she was going to hoop in the back seat.

I also massaged her legs, because they were hurting.

As for her attitude matching her actions. I think it does. My wife tells me how much I hurt her, and that I broke her, and she don't like talking about it, because it makes angry all over again.

Also, she says she wants to get the boys a puppy for X-mas. I tried to get one in July/August time frame and she said that a puppy seem to permanent of a decision we are in.

She also cooked for me last night and she tells me how her days has went and all the people she talked to and how she felt about the conversations.

I don't know how to take these scenarios.

I also, don't want to snoop, I think it looks very weak. I think it shows a high level of insecurity. I confident person, moves forward with his life. If we reconcile, I will make my boundaries and request complete transparency.

Also, if she has a burner, she has done a good job of keeping that hidden. If she went that deep, she deserves to be there. Only crazyiness happens there. I know if I go down the road, in that darkest, I will have to do crazy things to get there.

She def needs to earn my trust. I'm being patient and moving forward.