25...not sure. I was never able to confirm if my W was having an affair before she moved out. I always did and do suspect something (girls gone wild at minimum). Once she moved out I stopped snooping so maybe T was talking in general terms.
Not much new going on. We had parent teacher conference last night for my youngest D and both me and the W went. I expected my W, at some point, during the meeting to ask the teacher if there were any behavioral issues my D was having because of our sitch (pending D, SEP or whatever) but she never brought it up. The teacher also referred to me as "your husband" at one point during the conversation to my W which I expected her to correct as well but she didn't.
The funny thing is I used to read into this sort of stuff before now I don't really give a crap. I actually almost told the teacher myself but obviously I showed some restraint :0
[quote=Joseph9]25...not sure. I was never able to confirm if my W was having an affair before she moved out. I always did and do suspect something (girls gone wild at minimum). Once she moved out I stopped snooping so maybe T was talking in general terms.
Not much new going on. We had parent teacher conference last night for my youngest D and both me and the W went. I expected my W, at some point, during the meeting to ask the teacher if there were any behavioral issues my D was having because of our sitch (pending D, SEP or whatever) but she never brought it up. I just gotta say i would not expect her to do so. (At least not in front of you).
In fact, if anything, you might hear more of the "kids are resilient, what's the big deal/they'll be fine"mantras.
The teacher also referred to me as "your husband" at one point during the conversation to my W which I expected her to correct as well but she didn't.
your w does not want to raise any parental concerns on the teacher's end. God forbid the teacher say one of the kids seems distracted or having anger problems.
There's no reason for your w to correct the teacher or tell people at school, and unfortunately, I would read nothing at all into her refraining from a correction.
Sorry.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Hey 25, thanks.....this is why I have learned that mind reading does no good!! I will just keep on keeping on!! At least Blu gave me the DBer of the month award
Hi everyone, I hope you all are having a good weekend!
Wrapping up my final hours with my girls for the week, I am sad they will be leaving for the week and although it is nice to have some quiet time I am miss them terribly and all their little noises when they are gone. At this point in time this is what causes most of my anger towards my W.
We had a good weekend. Took them out to dinner on Thursday night and played some games which was fun! We had soccer games yesterday, which they both won and each of them scored a goal so that was great. My W was there and was in a good mood. We discussed an upcoming wedding which was a little awkward. The invitation was sent to our house and we never RSVP'd. The bride reached out to me and asked if we were going. I apologized and said yes although she did not reach out to my W and I didn't say anything to her. The W asked about it on Saturday and I told her the date, she asked if the invitation got sent to the house and I said yes. She then said we never RSVP'd and I told her that the bride reached out to me directly and left it at that. I assume she read between the lines but it's not my job to invite her, look out for her or explain it to her.
At our D's second game she sat next to me and at one point in time reached out and touched me. Which is very abnormal for her but I just brushed it off and acted like it wasn't nothing. Saturday night one of my D's went over to a friends house so I took my oldest out for yogert. They like to add their own toppings so it was fun to watch!
This morning we went to church and now they are just playing with each other as I watch football. Tonight they have choir practice and then after practice we are volunteering at the church to make xmas presents for underprivledged families that get shipped overseas. I am looking forward to it not only for the girls but also because it was one of my personal goals. I texted the W and told her we were volunteering and asked if she could pick them up 1 hr later and she said no problem.
I am taking pride in this as I feel I am moving on with my life and providing structure for my girls. I am not trying to comete with her to be a better parent but I know she is not doing these things with them so if nothing else I know I am carrying on with the family structure which I know at this age they really need.
I only hope she will wake up in time so she can enjoy these things with us but at this point in time I am happy with where I am at with the girls and myself personally. I will admit though that I do miss my W.
Just wanted to chime in as I watch my Oakland Raiders. I think you are continuing doing a great job DBing. I am sorry you miss your wife. That's the beauty of in house separation instead of missing them you learn to resent them for the person they have become which helps with detachment.
Hang in there man this nightmare won't last forever. I promise.
The RAAAAAAAAdars! They got themselves a ballgame today!
I appreciate the kind words and definately understand what your saying. Obviously I miss the my old W and I am sure if I knew more I probably wouldn't like this one.
Packing up your kids clothes in their suitcase, doing their laundry, cleaning up their bedrooms and shutting the doors for the week is tough. It is getting easier but man it is hard staying calm and not getting really angry at her.
Man yesterday was rough for some reason. I had kid exchange around 7:30 last night, W seemed to be in a weird mood acting like she wanted to hang out and talk. I just gave her the kids stuff, gave them hugs and kisses, then took off. In and out in less than 5 minutes, I told her "See ya" she said "have a good week" and off I went. I then got in my car and cried my eyes out all the way home. I hadn't done that in a couple of months. The emotions I felt were more about not seeing my D's this week than feelings for my W. I miss her but I know that I am and will be totally fine without her.
Yeah man, these emotions come at weird times. You'll think you're doing great, and then BAM! And at least for me, it's sometimes hard to pinpoint why I'm even crying.
Missing your D's will take some time to deal with. Sorry for your pain.
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Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
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