She started it all. She was done. She had lent the money to buy me out - it was serious.
But LBS have to realise that they really don't want to be doing this. They don't want to break up. But feel they have no choice.
The time in-between is an opportunity to make them second guess their decision.
I used that meeting time, to be upbeat, smiley, and ready for the future with or without her.
When she is coming round with papers.. she is expecting you to cry and grovel.. when I didn't do that and was happy to go along with things it took her by surprise a little.
A few weeks later she asked if we can spend some time together, from that moment on I made it my mission, never to ask about R, never not to be seen sad or depressed and be decisive.
Once the trust started to come back I still carried on with DB techniques, but allowed them to drift back to a more normal interaction method when I could sense her feeling more comfortable
