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[gw5263]

In need of some help.....
We went out today as a family on a day trip. S13 took some photos and tagged all of us in them. One of WW friends saw the tagg and posted "HMMMMMM". WW right away untagged herself from all the photos. I asked her why, and she said that people would get the wrong idea. I went out side and lit a fire, and began to relax and think. WW asked me to come in, and asked what was wrong, and long story short, we had a long talk about the state of things. She said she had no interest in working on us, not because of OM, but because her heart was closed to me. Said even if there was no OM she would not work on us because it would be going backwards.

I asked if she was comfortable letting everything go without trying, and she said yes, she had no intention of trying. So i asked how she knew if she wouldnt try. She said she just had no inteest. I broke the convoersation off and was headed out the door to the fire, and boom..... backslide. I asked how she could know if it would work or fail if she never tried, she said she didnt love me and didnt want to try. I shot back that we didnt love each other when we first met, but we worked on it and tried. Said same applies here, you dont feel that way now, but if we worked on it and tried tyou may feel different. She said no, and i replied that she would never know unless she tried. That her heart might just open up, and if it didnt, she had nothing to lose from trying. Again she said no,her, her heart was closed to it. Major Setback moment for me. I fell like total crap for allowing myself toget sucked in. I have worked hard for the past to weeks to 180 on R, M, OM, and US talk. To just throw all that work away and possibly cause even more damage is extremely disheartening.....