I hope anyone can learn from here, however, to take accountability. I have. I think laying all the blame on the WAS by saying "well, you didn't threaten divorce, else I would have changed, it's your fault" will not benefit anyone in reconciling their current marriage or helping them with their future relationships. amen^^^^. A year ago I would have summed up the m problems with "H broke his vows", but there is more to it than that.
As betrayed as I still feel, I see more things I would do differently if I had the information then, that I have now. I see my own role more clearly.
(Mostly I'm glad about seeing my role more. Because If I had been a perfect w and this crap still happened, I'd feel powerless going forward.)
Having said ^^this, I also see my h in a very different light. If we had a time machine then we could undo/redo things needed.
PARK, not saying you should date. In fact that would be pretty unfair to women you meet.
Just that if she knows you are "waiting" - that will slow down the return like nothing else. Why not explore OM's or whatever, if there's no rush since Park will be there later, anyhow? Not that she'd make that choice, consciously...
Anyhow, my cousin and his wife recon after 3 years, and My aunt and uncle recon 5 years after their divorce.
It happens
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
