Lost on how to save my marriage! 4

[joejoe1]

Sandi,

I feel you on no withdrawls. I can't put my finger on it. It's almost like she stop talking to the OM cold turkey. I have checked all kind of places. There's is nothing happening on none of the computers or home phone in the house. They only time I can think of, is when she goes out. The only other place I can see her keeping it, is on her body at all times. I spent a whole week at home with her last week and we talked almost the whole time, and was around each other almost the whole time.

I literally lost on this, because I have been looking for the signs of a WW, and the withdrawals and keeping in contact because of the addiction aspect.

Is it a possibility that she truly stop talking to the OM cold turkey? Sandi have you ever seen it before?

Some days, I just want to not ever worry about it, and say I'm the better M, so why even search for anything. Just worry about myself and keep moving forward. But, we all know we need concrete evidence to prove what our WS are doing.

I consider baby steps, her starting to hold conversations with me. Her considering on possibly staying in the M. Her considering getting a job to add income to our home. Her asking me for help. She wouldn't ask me for help for anything a while ago. Her saying she wanted to have sex, but she didn't want it to be bad. Or these not baby steps, do you see it as cake eating?

Last week she asked me what do I really want. I told her to save the marriage and she said, "oh really".

Sandi, give me your take. I will keep my eyes open.