I tell my self the same thing about pursuing, (read the solo partner 2 weeks ago). Detaching/distancing is much harder than it sounds. I seem to seize every opportunity to make my case... I know I should make time my friend, but battle with the what else might happen in time...
Of course it's hard. Change is hard.
Thats no excuse to not do it though!
And I promise you, this isnt a situation where you can convince her of ANYTHING through your words. Logic, reason, guilt, desperation....doesnt matter. Until there is enough TIME and CONSISTENT CHANGE on your part, you dont have a chance.
Originally Posted By: Clyde
I shouldn't, but I do worry about OM, she swears she has not and will not, I believe her for 2 reasons... One: she made me court her for a year+ before having sex. Yes she could be having an EA, but again swears she wants no relationship at this point in her life. Two: With all the vicious things she has said to me over the past 6 months I think she would of thrown it in my face. I fear the friends will try to expedite her finding OM to put the final nail in the coffin, her "sister" has several sugar daddys that I know she is still in contact with, I am worried she is trying to arrange some thing for my w, wether she knows it or not.
Do you really think she would tell you if there were an OM?
And frankly, does it even matter if theres an OM to what you need to do?
