How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

I honestly was and still am ok with the dynamic of me being the sole provider, my response to her calling our house a (censored) hole was from the hip, at that moment I felt as though she was not appreciating my part in the dynamic. (If i could go back to that day I would not have said what I said in that moment, instead waited for a better time and way to express my feelings to that comment.) I don't discount what her responsibilities are what so ever, even though it may have sounded like that. I pointed out how she goes above and beyond holding the house together but she is still able to have her tea on the back patio daily while the kids play in the yard, she gets to read books through out the day, does her yoga while the kids occupied themselves, all of which makes me happy, she deserved those moments - however she needed to realize that under the hours I was pulling I did not get a single moment to vent, relax... I step into my shop at 5 a.m. and have saws and machines screaming in my ears all day, on my feet all day. I will also add that I feel good knowing that my work load provides the opportunity for our family to have the benefits of a SAHM.

When we discussed schooling I told her I would make my schedule work with her school schedule which is exactly what we did of the 18 months she did decide to go school. When not killing my self doing 100 a weeks (its feast or famine in this industry) I try to keep my hours around 10 a day, but worked more hours on the days she did not have school to compensate.