How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

During our relationship, prior to the last year and a half we were intimate at least twice a day, with her initiating it at least once a day, life was good in that department... then I started to realize that even though the frequency did not decline, she did not initiate it. I brought this up to her and she said not to think anything of it, and occasionally initiated it. Eventually we went to about 2-3 times a week (I know I have nothing to complain about here), but I could tell she was not into it like in the past. She would stay up late avoiding bedtime together.

During this time she was talking/texting with her friends a lot more than in the past, this is also the time when I found the text of her and her friends talking bad about me.

This is where that damn treehouse and my response to feeling unappreciated comes back to haunt me. During MC, and even to this day she will bring up the treehouse argument and say I took her off her pedestal that day, and she began to put up her wall. Well one would think that having the cause, a solution would be easy to find, not so. There has been nothing I can say to assure my w that I still hold her on a pedestal and adore her in every way.

I must say even though she says that day was the start of it, I think it was going to happen no matter what because while I did not respond well that day, her list of reasons why we are in our current situation is not that solid, its like she is looking for reasons to despise me.

I know my w is responsible for her own actions, but I know her "sister" and friends are fueling it, after the first time she mentioned d, I started reading what ever I could to help our situation and doing 180's. She noticed because she text all her friends how much I was trying to make things better, cooking dinner, owning my faults, etc. told them she really does love me... there overwhelming response "pull your heart out of it and use your head".

I also got the "I love you but am not in love with you" dagger to the heart about 5 months ago.