How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

So a little bit more about my w, and our r. when we met she was a pre school teacher. She made me court her for a year before getting serious. she went to church and read her bible regularly. You would of never guessed that she came from the most extreme type of dysfunctional family.

When we had our first kid we decided she would be a SAHM, she embraced every bit of it... I was in awe of he motherly instincts and abilities, all our kids had organic homemade baby food, knew sign language before they could speak and so on. She homeschooled our daughter until 5th grade.

There were a few times during our 16 years that she picked up a waitressing job but never long term, during the 16 years she only worked 3 years total on and off. I was fine with being the sole provider, we made a good team, I knew I could always count on her to keep the family and home going if I needed to focus on a project. At times she wanted to pick up a waitressing job to help when funds were tight but it was never that sensible given the time she was away and what she would make, and that I would have to not work and be with the kids when she did, occasionally during these discussions I would encourage her to go back to school and get a career, this would frustrate her as she felt I was belittling her, I'd try to explain to her the benefits... not only financially but to her well being, I'd point out how she really does not like waitressing, but she loved being a preschool teacher, why not become a kindergarten teacher and so forth. She never wanted to hear it and would say things like "you know what you were marring into". Deep down I knew that if she wanted to work she would be happier with a career but it became one of those sensitive topics I knew to try and avoid.