Trying to stay above water 2

[25yearsmlc]

[quote=Henwen]Good point. I will call the referral thru my benefits and go from there.

If there is anything I can do or say to light a fire under this^^^ idea, I WILL DO or SAY IT!

I was married for 35 years, Hen. And for most of that time, I would have said it was a good to great marriage. That's been validated by others. We achieved a lot of things, attained wealth and raised 3 kids.

When I was out of town & suddenly took ill a year ago (which can happen to anyone at anytime),

I would never, ever believed that h would

1) not come out to get me until 6 days had passed and I was released from the hospital

2) move money around, then block my access to joint accounts,

3) leave me in a daze unable to drive, bathe or swim (we had a pool, so it mattered)

4) in a city in which I only knew 2 people - as we'd moved there for his job, again,

but which he left for the tundra Alaska

and 5) that he had been seeing OW

AND

6) cut off our youngest child's tuition for college before her 3rd year

and

7) have zero contact with our children, with whom he was once close.

And

8) then in divorce court, oppose paying ANY spousal support b/c he "wants/deserves to retire/travel the world/do another fellowship/buy into the partnership up there."

Yes he was/is confused, but no matter.

Hen, I get that your h is not mine. In fact, he sounds like he's been struggling awhile with this, and simply wants more peace in his life.


So, doesn't that make the risk of his justifying poor behavior, higher?