Maybe too much so, lol. W told me it seemed like I knew "all the right words to say" and that it was kind of "annoying". Think she was only half joking :-/
I have to agree, based on some word by word accounts others have given. I think some H's overkill with verbal validation. I mean, I would get annoyed just reading about it. Seriously though, if you feel you are over doing it, then you probably are in her opinion, as well. And btw, it's not necessary to validate everything she says. I get amazed how many men will post how their W said such & such and they validated her. Yeah, I would get a little annoyed, and it would certainly start feeling a bit smothering.
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The latent rebelliousness is still floating around. She talked some about doing things because she was "supposed to" and that she had done things like that all her life.
Yep, I did too. Plus, her BFF is adding her viewpoints into the mix.
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I also took down the surveillance I had put back up on her for a couple of days after bff's phone call. Not much point. I think I'll know if she falls off the wagon with OM and I can always put it back up to check. Other than the brief drive-by of OM's bar, there were no further slip ups.
Well, that's up to you. Just beware b/c this thing is far from over. You think you'll know, but didn't she fool you in the past?
The things she is saying about MC doesn't sound good, and I wish it wasn't two weeks until the next session. However, she is feeling depressed and continue for a while yet.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Seriously though, if you feel you are over doing it, then you probably are in her opinion, as well. And btw, it's not necessary to validate everything she says. I get amazed how many men will post how their W said such & such and they validated her. Yeah, I would get a little annoyed, and it would certainly start feeling a bit smothering. 
