Why would you ask her that question? I assume your goal was for her to say
"No, I want to recommit to our marriage and rebuild it, now that we had a few hours without fighting"??
No, actually an emphatic "Yes" is what I expected to hear. okay, so Why did you ask? If you expected a "yes" then getting her to say it out loud would only cement her wishes.
Do you believe that DB tenet about not asking the spouse, or you feel it doesn't apply, or was it just a mistake? (You're allowed to make those.)
Mistake
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
WW seems to be softening...Labor Day weekend it was "it's not healthy for us to stay together" to "do you want to meet at xxx". From "I don't feel comfortable around you" to spending the day together in less than 4 days timespan. I get the no pursuit so I definitely need to back off! Ray, do you? I mean, do you get it? I'm asking.
Again, a backslide
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
And How are your GAL going?
My focus is how YOUR work is going. It is all you control. Just your side of the sandbox, not her reaction or what you think she's feeling.
Running at least 3x week, weekly guitar class, CISSP exam prep(I try to get out to the local Starbucks to interact with other people), weekly lunch with my Mom, friends, travel for work, Meetups, Individual Counseling
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Also, btw, when someone sends a text, if there is any ambiguity in it, ask for clarification b/c I noticed a few times you have said you don't like the "tone" of a text from her.
The written word is harder to decode, so it's better not to react to what we fear.
