My issue has been that I am kind of a control freak and so when W did things that i considered 'disorganized' or not 'logical' I would really get annoyed. And over time this created this perception for me that W was just not being a proper adult and I would get riled up internally when she would do something small that wasn't how I would do it. I never yelled at her or got annoyed verbally, but she knew that I was feeling that way.
To give you an example - this is how dumb this thing is and how little significance it actually has.
W would put dishes in the dishwasher that I considered not efficient. It looked disorganized and you could fit more things in it if she did it 'my' way. So, that would annoy me. And the problem is that it would actually get me really mad internally. This was built over many years so I know that I didn't react that way few years back.
I need to fix this for myself because 'my' way isn't the only way or the 'right' way. I need to be able to chill out about little things like this.
