WW Part 2 Chapter 2

[25yearsmlc]

Why would you ask her that question? I assume your goal was for her to say


"No, I want to recommit to our marriage and rebuild it, now that we had a few hours without fighting"??

Looking back, can you see how unrealistic it was? Can you see how it might set you back? Particularly unrealistic was the "yes/no" demand.


The 37 "Rules" Sandi assembled around here, are "not rules, so much as guidelines" based on MWD's books and approach. And not all apply to everyone's situation.

Here are a few of the ones that do apply, and must be applied in your situationL



1.Do not pursue, reason, chase, beg, plead or implore! This turns the spouse completely off.
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5. Do not encourage talk about the future. They don't want to think about a future with you at the moment, so stay clear of that subject.

7. Do not ask for reassurances (That is showing neediness and being clingy.) Show self-respect and self confidence.

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12. Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude.-
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17. You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse.
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20. All questions about marriage should be put on hold, until your spouse wants to talk about it (which may be a while) so this takes patient on your behalf.
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27. Take care of yourself (exercise, sleep, laugh & focus on all the other parts of your life that are not in turmoil). This is for your health's sake.

Hope this helps