How a treehouse can cost you your marriage

[Clyde]

At the same time her friend (pseudo sister) announced her engagement to her boyfriend. This woman has had several affairs, is an attention (censored) when out… and has facilitated affairs for other friends only to tell everybody about it afterward, (I guess it makes her feel better). I have always felt as though she was jealous of the genuine relationship my w and I had.
The upcoming wedding became a point of contention when she planned several all weekend bachelorette parties over the course of the year. The first bachelorette party was approaching and it came up in MC, the MC thought it would not be a good idea for my wife to go given there were several planned and at the time our relationship was not at its strongest. My wife expressed her desire to go later that night, it turned into an argument in which I continued to seal my fate. My wife used her friends husbands as an example, telling me “they don’t care if their wives go” to which I responded, “lets see how they feel about it after I blow the lid on the affairs their wives have had on them”. I guess my w took me seriously because she warned all of her friends about it. I know… stupid move on my part (wish I had my DB book back then!) Needless to say, I became enemy #1 of this group of women.

My w did not go to the bachelorette party, seemed upset for a few days, but seemed to get over it. We continued MC, she was going out of her way to be affectionate and make time for us, all was good for a month or two. One weekend she seemed off again, was short with me, and did not want to talk about it or even acknowledge that she was being that way. I could tell something was up and decided to look at her text, sure enough the “sister” text her two days prior giving her a hard time for not going to the upcoming bachelorette party, she told my w “this is why I did not pick you to be my maid of honor… I knew he would pull this crap, you need to get out of his grip”. It looked as though some of the thread was deleted too, so I do not know what my wife part in this conversation was. I asked her about it, she said it was no big deal, she didn’t reply. I asked her why the thread was incomplete, what did she delete, she denied it. I questioned again and told her that she should of defended me to the sister, and not allowed her to talk trash on me. At that point she screamed at me for reading the text and told me for the first time she was done, and wanted a divorce.

We went about 2-3 weeks barely talking, she dropped out of MC after getting caught in several lies, I continued to go. Eventually I convinced her that our marriage was not over, and that we just need to be more understanding of one another's point of view and more willing to compromise etc. About a month later was our 9th anniversary I took her out to a dinner and a concert, she had her reservations about going saying she does not know if we have gotten that far in the healing process, I honestly think she did not want to go but did not want me in that environment alone. She was distant through out the night (not even wanting to hold hands) slowly warming up as the night went on and we were having a good time. The concert was at a small venue were there was room to dance, my wife was dancing by herself in front of the table we were sitting at. I do not dance but know she loves to… so I figured this would be a good chance to come out of my comfort zone and dance with her. After a few minutes of dancing with the w, she pulled me to her side and told me to dance beside her, I was humiliated… and went back to sit at the table. After about 5 minutes I had enough of the cold shoulder so I Told her I wanted to go and walked out with her following. When we got to the truck I tried to tell her how I felt, she did not want to hear it, again said she is done,wants a d, and we never recovered. We continued to live together for another 2 months while she tried to figure out how to support herself and I tried to fix our m. Thats when the story really gets insane!