Any Advice 2

[gw5263]

I feel like i need to explain some things from the previous post.

Tread - I didnt cut them a break. I am off the weekend. As far as using her seeing him as a boundary, unfortunatley, sur to the law here, i cannot kick her out of the house unless there is Domestic Violence. As long as her name is on the deed she cannot be forced out. I am not leaving MY house due to her behavior. It would be rewarding her. And dont think I'm afraid to do anything about the affair, I almost detonated the OM unitl i recognized it for what it was, revenge. Iwould give anything to end this affair.

25 - My Daughter had a copy of the book from a class at her high school and took the quiz for the child. She asked my wife to do it on her own, and also asked me, just to see the differences in our styles. She knows quite a bit about the A, except the graphic parts. My son also knows because he has overheard her facetiming OM while in her room while im at work. WW got super pissed when she thought that i had written OM older daughter from a previous marriage. She said that the girl is only 18 and doesnt need to know these things about her dad, but has no issue with our children knowing and manipulating our daughter early on in this mess. As far as a DB coach, I cannot afford one right now. I have had to hire two attorneys to help file bankruptcy due to her A. She quit paaying bills while we were separated, and now ive been hit with a garnishment, a lawsuit, and am starring a foreclosure in the face. Financially i am destroyed right now. I have every thing on me, and no end in sight. I get overwhelmed by it a lot. I pay all the bills, buy all the groceries, kids needs, and christmas is looming.
Her pay is divided between a car payment and the rest folded in.

25, i know it sound like i dont listen, but i do . As i said, at times im so overwhelmed by every thing that i just want to run. And i end up running incircles like a chicken with its head cut off. She talks to this bastard every night while walking, and there is nothing i can do. I am used to being in control to an extent, due to my job, but here i am not. I wish i could just grab her by the shoulders and scream what the hell are you thinking... I am going to go to the lake tomorrow and read for a long while and try to implement what ihave read. Ive done some good 180's as i wrote.

Joe Joe - I am not obsessed with the OM, I do like to know what they are up to because in the past they have schemed against me, As far as boundaries, this is the biggest thing i struggle with. I cant use kicking her out, I cant take her phone, i am sooo unsure of what could become a boundary. The only thing i can use is D, and i want to make sure i am willing to do it if need be. And right now to be honest i dont know that i am. I cant figure out my options to get her out of an active A. I cant push them closer, because he is three states away and she refuses to go to him. It is all over the phone. So any ideas would be extrememly helpful right about now. I have no idea what to do other than the 180's i have done and pull back. Just [censored] because it truly is counter intuitive. I fell like by not doing anything active, i am saying bby inaction that what shes doing is just peachy... I need to get my head right again and figure this out fast.