Living in limbo and hating it

[Painful]

How would it benefit YOU to acknowledge the anniversary? Forget her and what the date means to her and blah blah blah.

Thank you M. True, I shouldn't worry what the date means to her. But the date is one of the best days of MY life as well. It always meant a lot to me to be sure to celebrate it, so maybe that's why I'm thinking (probably overthinking) about it and wanting to reach out to WW.

A text or even in-person acknowledgment of this isn't going to somehow make any difference in your sitch. It's a small thing. If you do acknowledge it, don't expect any thing to happen or change.

Again very true M. And I definitely wouldn't bank on anything right now. I'm just thinking it might nudge her to the future IF things start to turn around in her mind.

I'd err on the side of not acknowledging it.

Somehow I FEEL the opposite - that there isn't too much downside and yet there is a potential upside. I might be totally wrong though. That's why I wanted to have opinions shared, and I appreciate yours, M. Do you think it would come across as being needy, weak, hanging-on and other behaviors we aren't supposed to show WW?