I know I can rely on 25, Own, and Sky to be more eloquent and thorough in their responses, so I am gonna just cut to the chase :-) I am calling a big, steaming pile of BULL-CHIT on your H right now. I am surprised by none of this and have been expecting (and waiting) for all of it. I actually expected he would drop to his knees, cry, and beg a little ... Here is the thing, he is only cracking because you are truly detaching and he sees he is losing you. Does he actually feel guilty and remorseful? Will he actually look inside himself and change into the partner you (and the kids) need and deserve? That, I have no idea. I don't think any of us can know that yet. But this here--pursuing and again he is blame shifting (oh Sara, you are actually being nice, I am so surprised, now I can actually consider you an option) BS, is not what I think you are looking for. I think you are looking for a man that is genuinely wanting to change and be better person for his W, kids, and mostly for himself. I think you can only measure that with consistent actions over time. So my advice is to keep forward on your path and do as you are planning. In the mean time, let's see if he decides to do the hard work of looking inside himself and then continuing on that path and staying there ...
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
