Would I sound cynical to say it's too much for someone to get a character transplant in a week?
Just a week ago he was a totally self absorbed nasty man (who was only nasty to you b/c HE felt bad??)
a week ago he was a guy who would rather "pray" and ignore his family or take a nap after HE had a hard day.
And now he sees that you might become free, and that means free to attract the attention of another man.
Your dilemma is b/c you obviously want (& hope)for the guy to repair himself and then to rebuild a marriage with him and then to hope the repairs take and last.
You also don't want to get sucker punched anymore, and you'd rather be on your own or in a healthy r with a man who does the sexy thing called "effort" - and for more than a month.
It's a dilemma. Knowing what I know now?? Can't go there.
At a minimum, I'd want him to get intensive individual counseling and since your h portrays the image of some piety, I'd get the helpful kind of cleric to do a whole lot of work with your h.
Not just an IC, and NOT just a cleric, but both.
If you have that "itchy sweater" feeling again, or at all, that's your gut talking. Don't shut that voice down.
You're not "crazy" or a "controlling b1tch" or " too demanding" - to want and expect and deserve a man who means & keeps his vows.
Good grief. And good luck in whatever you choose.
We are rooting for you.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
