Usually the LBS has no where to go anyway except through he pain and grief so standing is an excellent choice It helps us stabilize, watch the actions of our H while at the same time plow through crazy pain and start over
One day the pain subsides..Its over and we are done- sometimes the MLCer does turn around but usually it takes time
Lois ( a poster here) recently had her MLCer wanting to return after many years
They seem to need to go through their choices (replay and fun, OW, spending, drugs, alcohol,trips, new cars toys and clothes, tattoos ) to see it doesn't work and when you think about it How can it work? The temporary highs and the lows are extreme because when you think another R can Fix you or help you find yourself you are in trouble-
Its just an addiction and New R will cover the pain for only so long. they usually can't last and rarely do but it takes them lots of years to figure it all out and yes they leave our lives a mess at first but that only lasts so long also Most LBS do create better lives and you will read this over and over as well-
Keep working on yourself You will know more later
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
